Friday, August 18, 2000

Are people generally good and just *happen* to do bad things, or are they overwhelmingly bad and struggle to do good 'cuz they think it's the *right* thing to do. The use of the terms "good" and "bad" are obviously subjective, but if you thought of it on a general level, which would it be? For me, the answer changes from day to day. (I'll be the first to admit that often the opinion will change during different times of the month...)

Today, the sun is shining and the answer is..."overall good," but they are lead to do *evil* by desires that are beyond their emotional control. Ask me another day, and the magic 8-ball will have a different answer. hehehe


This brings up another thing that I've been tossing around in my head for a couple of months. Silent Hatred or Hidden Hatred. It was a long car journey from Chicago in the spring after a BBW bash that made me think of this concept as being a detrimental to society as a whole. The general idea is that so many people present a pleasant front, but deep down they hate or strongly dislike an individual for *whatever* reason.

At a recent BBW bash, I saw so many examples of it...

  • a thin family who laughed and joked about the fat chick in the elevator until they saw me coming down the hall. The immediately stopped when they saw me. Then, when they thought I was around the corner, they started up again.
  • A woman who I know trashes me behind my back, asks me in an all too sweet pleasant tone "How are you..blah, blah, blah, blah"
  • A very happy woman gets off an elevator, her two *friends* (I use that term loosely) make faces at each other and roll their eyes immediately after her departure

It goes on from that bash to online:

  • Web boards on which private or personal *differences* are supposed to be written about in email, not in a public forum even though the *differences* were discovered on that public forum. (This doesn't happen *just* in size acceptance boards, but all-over the net.)
  • An instance posted on a board that indicated that there was a strong dislike of a person for *months* even though I had wittnessed a lot of *nicey* *nicey* banter between the parties.

I could go on and on, and I intend to at a later date. I find all of this soooooo disturbing. I'm sure this is not a new societal thang. I'm sure it's been around for centuries. Is it human nature or just a fact of our society? Is it more common now than one hundred years ago? Anyway, chew that up...I'll write more about this at a later time.